The Trick

Passion is almost oposite to the love of old couples. Passion is very strong but it fades soon. Love is much more mild but it can last forever. The sex in Marriage has much more to do with passion in the beginning but after that something must replace passion. Most say there’s no marriage without sex but how do they do after decades together? I’m with my wife for five years now. As the relation is still kinda new it didn’t happen yet but surely someday passion will fade away and from what i read in magazines everybody is still having sex after passion fades. Is it a lie? What do they do to not become more like brothers and sisters to their  wives and husbands? Or do they become brothers and sisters and eventually sex is not an option anymore? If this is the case why does everybody lies about this? Are we obligated to have sex to be happy and functional and accepted? How long does sexual interest remains in a relationship? What i can say for my five years is that sex is not the most important thing anymore. The person i’m with is much more than that. Only to be able to participate in her life would be enough. I can’t think of myself anymore without her. So what’s the role of sex in this relation? What is the trick?

Clean

I was reading another research showing the society’s degree of cleanliness is getting too high and deseases that never existed are becoming more and more normal as we get cleaner. I’m really in for the cleaning concept specially showers. I can’t go to sleep without it but it seams some bacteria we had before prevented our own body to produce deseases. Some of these deseases created by our own immune system. Not only in the medical field but in general life i believe everything need it’s own balance and in this really tech world we live today it’s getting more and more difficult to get our hands dirty. Some people give me the impression of not having contact with dirty in a while. Some people even give me the impression that sex can be too messy for them. The important thing is that life is messy and our bodies are really dirty things. There are many disgusting stuff we generate inside our bodies. What is really clean is death. Where there’s no life everything is aseptic. No germs which are also living things. So it bothers me to see i kid that never played outside. These modern kids raised by computers. It’s sad to learn they never saw an earthworm in their lives. It makes me wonder if the more you get away from dirt the more you get away from life.

Lies and the city

I was reading an interview with an important psychologist specialized in sex and it’s really amazing how often people lie about it. The researches are even funny when they mention numbers like these: The average couple usually have sex twice a week. The average guy that is married have sex three times a week and the average married woman usually have sex once a week. I’m not very good in math but there’s something really weird with these numbers. It gets worst with the singles. In a group of three thousand men and three thousand women the researches discovered that men have a different partner every week and women have a different partner every two months. If you consider that the number of people from each gender is not that different something is very wrong! So if the world is so “modern” these days why do people still lie about their performance in sex? Guys saying they do it more than they really do or girls saying that the do it less than they really do? Probably both. With single people that sounds bad but in married people that sound even worst! Why do married people lie about their performance? Sex life fades away but nobody want to talk about it? Does less sex means less happiness in the marriage? I have a fairly new wedding and if someone asks me i have no problem to talk about it but maybe that doesn’t last forever. Even so i really don’t think sex is the most important thing of it anyway. The commitment is. The plans are. The bonds are. Learning about this research made me realize sex is overrated. At least for me and if anyone have a different opinion please tell me because i would love to hear it. Either i’m right in the way i think or math doesn’t apply to sex and all researches are wrong.