It’s easy to say “You gotta be happy” you all must be thinking. It’s really hard to just be happy. A lot of daily problems and issues. A lot of hungry people on our doorsteps and people trying to put us down. We can realize if we want that happiness is not a possibility. It’s a theory made for us to believe there is something contrary to the problems of our daily life. I must say there’s not. I must also say that happiness is an art and a really important one. You can have different people in the same situation. One always ends up better than the other and this is not a coincidence or luck. Happiness needs to be carved. You need to work on the concept to be able to learn and master it and that’s because happiness is something that comes from inside ourselves. Of course many things can help happiness to flourish. The warm sunlight is for me one of the stronger factors to level up my happy-meter. Sometimes a gift of a nice surprise. But those are just triggers and can’t be confused to the fact itself. The cost for a mistake in this matter is the never ending search for a never found happiness. The surprise goes away and the gift lasts a day or two in our hearts. So there’s no other way. We gotta learn to make happiness grow not only in the warm sunlight but also in the shadow. That may sound cheesy but can also save our lives. Don’t forget people die of depression. People get sick because of lack of interest in life. People looses interest in food, people, desire and other senses. So happiness can’t be left for chance. It’s our job to find it.
It’s so easy to spot a bad choice when it’s not about you. It’s so hard if it is. We create our future by the choices we make and sometimes we do it wisely and sometimes not. How many different lives we could have only if we decide minor changes. What if you took one more month to end your old relationship and you missed the opportunity to meet the person you are with now for the rest of your life? What if you decided not to go by bus on that day and got into a traffic accident with your car where someone got badly hurt? All we can do is try to make the best choices and hope for the best but nobody can predict which choice will be the best one. It’s weird that reading to what i’m writing now you may think choice is a bad thing but it’s the opposite. Probably is the gift we received from god to be able to find freedom and happiness. It’s not because it’s a gift and a great one that it should be easy. Making choices sometimes can be really difficult. Probably the bitter task we have as humans. It’s the price for free will and for the nature of being human. Still after all this time making choices how do we make so many wrong ones? Shouldn’t we be more professional on this matter? Maybe we should do it with the brain or maybe we should do it with the heart. The fact is that even recognizing where the choice came from is hard enough.
Today is Valentine’s day here in Brasil. I know in the US is in february but here it is today. All couples are posting photos of amazing meals on Facebook and the twitter is pumping messages of love. How wonderful is this day for the couples and how amazingly annoying it is for the singles. It is impossible to eat out because every seat of the city is reserved. It’s even irritating to see the joy and the happiness on most couple’s faces. More than photos of meals i see explanations of how good it is to be single on this date. Many parties for singles with the same result. Getting really drunk and going for the wrong choices. Sometimes going out with that friend and end up spoiling the friendship because of the need to have someone on this evening. I know many singles that didn’t go out so they don’t compromise because if you go out in Valentine’s day that means you are dating. I remember how many valentine’s i spent alone and most of them started with me alone and finished with me alone. I remember the anxiety on the days before Valentine’s day: Should i invite her to go out? Should i disappear? What if i have noone to spend Valentine’s day with me? Now i’m one of these annoyingly happy people at restaurants celebrating love. It took a long time to find the right person to spend all my Valentine’s days with. My wife. Happy valentine’s day! (by the way in Brasil it has nothing to do with Saint Valentine. It’s just called Couple’s day on Lover’s day or something like that. The translations is not acurate)