Social media really took over our lives. Facebook is the tool i use to check out what is happening with almost everyone i know. It’s also the place where i debate my ideas. Much less now but still. Why less? I believe strongly that the kind of language and connection you use to exchange something impacts deeply in the result of the event to all members involved. It first social media was all too perfect. The future with no distance between loved ones. A warmer mankind. But wait. A warmer mankind in a medium composed by bits and bites silicone and electricity? Why not? And it worked like that for some time. Until the marriage was not new anymore. Until people learned all potencial offered by social media. Until it was clear facebook have no interlocutor. You post your idea. People read it. People write back. No expressions or emotions or body language. No negotiation or mutual solution. You leave that idea there for nobody. You don’t expect an answer. Just applause. If someone contest your ideia…that’s trolling. That person is a hater. So you leave your idea in that post not to be part of a dialogue. Of mutual growth. You become a little dictator. People are obligated to read what you say. And applaud. That problem of a room full of dictators is that nobody has somebody to rule. And dictators get really frustrated in a situation like that. They tend to loose it. They end relationships. They start fights over politics or religion on even trivial things. I’m one of them. You are probably too. So i step back and revaluate facebook in my life. I decide not to engage. I realize the medium is too cold for empathy. And without it most ideas take a wrong turn somewhere. At first i had to use DETOX. A plugin for facebook where you don’t read your newsfeed in the middle column. Instead it get flooded by design art and inspirational news. Yes. I had that for months. When i was ready i switched off. Now it see my friends really angry with other people and each other. And i use the time and energy to do things in the real world where i can exchange expecting to learn. I can use the time writing in here. After all haters are usually lazy and don’t waste their time reading much. Just enough to complain.