I was reading an interview with an important psychologist specialized in sex and it’s really amazing how often people lie about it. The researches are even funny when they mention numbers like these: The average couple usually have sex twice a week. The average guy that is married have sex three times a week and the average married woman usually have sex once a week. I’m not very good in math but there’s something really weird with these numbers. It gets worst with the singles. In a group of three thousand men and three thousand women the researches discovered that men have a different partner every week and women have a different partner every two months. If you consider that the number of people from each gender is not that different something is very wrong! So if the world is so “modern” these days why do people still lie about their performance in sex? Guys saying they do it more than they really do or girls saying that the do it less than they really do? Probably both. With single people that sounds bad but in married people that sound even worst! Why do married people lie about their performance? Sex life fades away but nobody want to talk about it? Does less sex means less happiness in the marriage? I have a fairly new wedding and if someone asks me i have no problem to talk about it but maybe that doesn’t last forever. Even so i really don’t think sex is the most important thing of it anyway. The commitment is. The plans are. The bonds are. Learning about this research made me realize sex is overrated. At least for me and if anyone have a different opinion please tell me because i would love to hear it. Either i’m right in the way i think or math doesn’t apply to sex and all researches are wrong.









Agreed! I recently told friends the number of sexual partners I had, and they flipped. The number was too low for them, so perhaps something was wrong with me. But no. honestly, I treasure the mental connection – not the sex – that I have had with men. Do we have to be over-sexed to be a part of the sexual revolution? I think not.
Some friends didn’t believe me when I recently revealed the number of sexual partners I had in the past. The number was too low for them. But honestly, to me, it’s perfectly alright. Mental connections have always meant more to me than sexual connections, and call me a romantic, but it never made much sense to attempt the latter without the former. Our new sexual revolution shouldn’t urge us to have sex with anyone and everyone, but instead ask us to set up the kind of circumstance where it feels good with those we choose to sleep with.
I think what these researches shows is that are worried still with things like performance. I got it all wrong when i like you imagined that today everything is much more individual and statistics as gossip shouldn’t matter much. But we are wrong… They do and people still lie about their performance in sex!!!!
i really don’t think sex is the most important thing of it anyway. The commitment is. The plans are. The bonds are. Learning about this research made me realize sex is overrated…
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after 45 years married: you are right …
i really don’t think sex is the most important thing of it anyway. The commitment is. The plans are. The bonds are. – AGREED.
Although I’m not going to go so far as to agree sex is overrated. Personally, I rather like it. Then again, when you are forced to be celibate, as we are at the moment, I guess we are not inclined to think it is overrated!! Ask again in a couple of years time, when we’ve been able to catch up a bit! 🙂
Well… you case is very specific : ) …It’s kinda the exception that confirms the rule…
LOL – yes, this is true!
Whoops, didn’t mean to post that twice, thought the first comment to come through? Silly WordPress for android app 🙂
what a load of tosh!
I don’t know anyone who has sex that regularly anymore, now that me and my social sphere are no longer in our late teens/ early twenties!
The single guys doth protest too much!
This article made me chuckle.
Funny statistic I heard a while back: 91% of men masturbate. The other 9% are liars.