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In my life i travelled to other countries and that’s why i can say i understand the idea behind this challenge. I say this because this is true only because i travelled to countries with well defined seasons. In my country and specially in my city you can have the four seasons in a day. It can be freezing in the morning and sunny and really hot at lunch and then in the afternoon is raining cats and dogs and so on. They call it tropical climate but i really think the correct name is chaos. So my shot for this challenge is a little different. It shows how the season changes that can happen in hours can catch us off guard.

 

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It’s so easy to spot a bad choice when it’s not about you. It’s so hard if it is. We create our future by the choices we make and sometimes we do it wisely and sometimes not. How many different lives we could have only if we decide minor changes. What if you took one more month to end your old relationship and you missed the opportunity to meet the person you are with now for the rest of your life? What if you decided not to go by bus on that day and got into a traffic accident with your car where someone got badly hurt? All we can do is try to make the best choices and hope for the best but nobody can predict which choice will be the best one. It’s weird that reading to what i’m writing now you may think choice is a bad thing but it’s the opposite. Probably is the gift we received from god to be able to find freedom and happiness. It’s not because it’s a gift and a great one that it should be easy. Making choices sometimes can be really difficult. Probably the bitter task we have as humans. It’s the price for free will and for the nature of being human. Still after all this time making choices how do we make so many wrong ones? Shouldn’t we be more professional on this matter? Maybe we should do it with the brain or maybe we should do it with the heart. The fact is that even recognizing where the choice came from is hard enough.

It still amazes me how do we interact with other humans. How we have the same reactions we had when we
where children. Couples are one of the most interesting of these relations. I always had girls as friends. Some guys never believed my friendship with girls could be real and for them i was always looking for them with second intention. I guess my only second intention as a 20’s guy was the fact that they were invited to every great party and they helped me getting in many of those. I will not lie that i felt attracted to a couple of them because i had some really pretty girls as friends but i prefered to keep the friendship. i’m a curious person by nature and i always enjoyed to listen to their side of the story. I have to say they were really helpful and i was an educated guy when women was the subject. That didn’t help me getting into a couple messes though. So by this i can say i heard plenty from both sides and in my point of view nobody is a victim. I heard for a long time girls complaining that there were no single men anymore and a listened to that statement while messages would arrive in their phones asking them to go out in dates at fancy restaurants. They would say these guys were looking only for sex but i would listen to them complaining next week that the guy wouldn’t stop calling and that he was worst than gum to get rid of. The fact is that those girls were looking for a mister nice (nice reads good looking in this case) guy so they could have a lot of fun with them and get dumped (dumped means free in this case) on the next morning. So when the guy started to call like crazy because he could really get interested these girls would freak out. I’m talking about the beginning of the 90’s. Seams to me that things are a little more honest these days. Some girls just tell what they are looking for and guys do the same. Now let’s not forget about us guys so let’s imagine we were that nice looking guy that went out with my friend. In this case we as men were privileged by society and the only part we would have to play in that dinner would be the nice guy. We would lie about our intentions but that’s not actually lying, it’s being romantic. You see the feminin touch. Romance. That’s the perfect hint and excuse the feminin minds gave guys to split after sex. The problem with that is guys don’t act with a plan just like women do so you girls just teach us that we will spend our hole lives leaving next morning. Thanks god and mothers probably but guys can’t live alone for long and i bet you girls know it. So no matter how used a guy is to do the next morning routine he will always be ready to be summoned when he is needed. It would be even easier if we guys were not so afraid of changes. That’s the reason we sometimes take a while to engage. In the end what i learned is that everyone can get involved when they feel like it. The problem with always choosing the “wrong” person is that it is always the perfect choice at the moment. We are looking for a wrong person because we don’t want to go further. Because we want that excuse in the next morning. The only unlucky in this “perfect” system are those who don’t understand these facts and are not clever enough to walk away next morning.
PS: Don’t for a moment think i don’t believe in love but that’s not the subject here.