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After 72 hours without almost no speed due to many things happening together i just laid in my bed after a great shower and started reading my posts. I’m not sleepy yet because of the adrenaline probably engaged by stress so now i again will start a process to cool down. That can be really healthy and it makes me wonder how common it is to be like that now a days. We life in rushes of stress separated by a couple healing days. It’s always like that. When you are in the middle of something really important it seams you forget about the planet and the bills and the meal and so on. You even forget to go to the bathroom sometimes. It’s amazing how strong our bodies are and that’s why we stop feeling the need for these thing but we gotta know we need to stop. The funny thing is that when we do stop it seams our body tries to collect our dues to it. When i’m in the middle of action i can get rain and cold weather and stay with no food and nothing wrong happens but when it end and i get to rest i get sick. Sometimes a cold or things like that. The most amazing is that the mind suffers in the same way. I can deal calmly and attempt in big stress situations but when it ends and i get home i get depressed. It’s very hard to wake up in the next day. A lot of people on filmmaking complain about this. It’s the lack of routine and this ups and downs that simulate a kind of bipolar behavior that reflects in out actual state of mind. Funny how the body works. It’s so perfect we usually overuse it.

We need to be fast. Very fast. The life we live today demands our energy and responsiveness every second of the day. We live in the “jumpy” age. And there are consequences on living in this age. Fast heart, irritability, insomnia, stress. It’s hard to avoid these symptoms because we don’t give our bodies the brake needed to cool down. So it’s more important now than ever to learn how to respond to everything using the minimun amount of energy needed. Sounds like i’m talking about accounting but not nearly. Is not easy to learn how to spend the minimun energy in an upsetting event for an example. How to argue about parenting being the less angry possible. How to fight for your rights without getting a headache. One might think i’m suggesting the old “count to 10” method and that’s not very far from the truth. Not the actual counting but the idea to analize our “heat” level and push the plug when necessary. We must find ways to protect our self from all the madness without leaving the asylum. I found in chinese meditation a great help for that kind of issue. The problem is that i’m not able to meditate during a business meeting. I believe breathing right is one of the keys because it forces you to slow your pace and listening to your body and loosing your shoulders if you are tense can help. But then the problem may be that sometimes we need to be so focused and ready that we can’t disconnect it doesn’t matter how damaging is the situation. I see as a last resource to remain calm and prepare some time off afterwords. It can be two minutes but two well used minutes where i’ll slow down and focus on myself. That work pretty fine. Those things are very important and we need hiding places during the day for the sake of our sanity. The most important thing of all though is to say no when you need to and not do give more than you have to offer. Many people are skilled in making us think we gotta do it and do it now. It’s like hipnosis. But the thing is: we don’t always have to do it. Sometimes we have to say no and leave the weight to someone else to carry. We are already all the time under the spotlight so we gotta take care not to burn ourselves.

I live in a very big city and as any other very big city the number of cars is much higher than i should be. I was going to work today morning and i witnessed a scene that is so common it’s scary. There was no trafic light in this smal street and a car driven by a woman in front of me was trying to turn right into the larger street. His was having a hard time partly because she probably didn’t drive that well and partly because that larger street was really crowded. After some time trying she decide to go for it cutting a bus but with a reasonable distance. The guy driving the bus had at least 30 feet to stop and he was a about ten mph at the most. Even so he continued moving forcing the car on his left to move out of the way. I saw his face and really wandered. It there was no law and no restrains of any kind would he hit the woman’s car. I think maybe he would. I see that kind o attitude in many occasions. The only thing keeping him from doing it is the punishment. How many people didn’t get into fights on even committed crimes just because of the punishment? That makes me wonder. I think of our selves as sophisticated beings on the top of the evolution chain. With invented cures for our selves and the most amazing technology. We are able to love and to tell histories of love. How can we accept that there’s is no moral judgement balancing our everyday activities ?The fact is some people still lack moral sense and ethics and the only thing keeping them in control is the law and the regulations. Common sense is not in place here. That show something is wrong with the model. People are too stressed by this amount of events called modern life and some are not dealing with it in a healthy way. Why are we so late and worried? So repressed? So intensely caged that when there’s a chance we forget our place and turn into the animals that can only relate to instincts? I’ll stop and think twice next time i get angry. I hope you all do the same.