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Video games were the parents off at least three generations mine included. Probably my generation was the first with those very primitive tennis video games where the ball was a square and we were rectangles and hits like Simon. A funny thing about being this first team of humans playing games is the fact that our parents always imagined that activity as a children only thing. They see us playing Wii and Playstation today and all they say is: Aren’t you too old to play this?? My generation in other hand understand the place these games have in our everyday lives and that’s what we should pass along to our kids. With games you can control and master a much more interesting reality where you can be also much better with less effort than you need in the real world which is also a game but much more complex with much more things involved. Video games were designed to be another way of alienating people and to entertain them in their free time. That’s much less time for people to think about changes and improvement. Usually governments that want an easy population to manipulate really can enjoy that kind of tool. I’m not saying that’s all games are for but differently than saying it’s not a thing for adults we should tell kids it’s not a thing for people who wants do evolve. Games are fun, really fun. But they also create nothing but waste of time. So what i mean is: Do play but remember that’s wasted time so you will not play for too long. Another thing. All games are for adults but not all games are for kids. I do believe games with too much violence and with a very adult storyline are not helping kids these days. Already the time to become an adult is arriving earlier and earlier. We can see TI programmers with fourteen and that’s a well paid job. These activities are all related to the game and web culture and the less we can expose kids to that the more time they will still be kids.

I have a friend that used to say she would never have a kid. “Nothing as irritating as a kid screaming by your side on the airplane” she used to say. I tried to understand how someone choose to not have a kid. I really think it’s natural to want to have children. The spark in the eyes of a new father is undescrideable. After having babies new parents can stay months with no sleep and still be happy about it. They always say: “You will only understand when you have one”. Well… i’m planning on having one next year so i’m paying more attention than ever on parents of babies. I’m starting to learn that i hate mothers that go out to run with their babies on carriers. I’m learning that i hate mothers that go dining after eleven at night bringing babies with them. I’m learning that it’s not the babies falt that the scream. Well that i already knew. It’s the parents falt. Why bring a baby with six months to an international flight? Why bringing a baby to Disneyland? It’s too early for the baby to enjoy. The parents are just using the babies as excuse. So if i’m having a baby i gotta understand something my parents and most parents from the seventies never understood. You have to give up a lot. You can’t just have a baby and continue travelling and going out and working and being away all the time. Leaving the kids with the nanny is not an everyday thing. You gotta have time for your kids. But then i really get scared because i don’t have a clue if i’m good as a parent. I don’t know even if i can hold a baby. Anyway i’ll do it and i’m only sure of one thing: I’ll love him and i’ll rase him and i’ll prepare him to the world and eventually he will leave me. But that’s life!

I remember when i was young my father telling me i had to stop dreaming and realize what i really had to do with my life because life is hard and one have to face up reality and responsibility. I tried to go against him and i decided to be as creative as i could. First i tried to play music but i learned that with no money i couldn’t go far away from my home. Then i tried to do photography. I’m good at it but i couldn’t make a living on it as well. Later on i discovered film. It had music and photography and creativity all in the same combo. I saw i couldn’t go very far living in my father’s home because for him it would be still a dream and not something real. I left his house and started working my way in film very slowly. Many times when i talked to him he would try to convince me that i was wasting my life with something that was not a real job. Then i started getting better and better in my field. After twenty years he still tried to find some weakness in my life specially financial to be able to say i was wasting my life. Now i’m an internationally know director and this year he asked me to work in his company. He said he was seventy and he was about to quit. Either i decided to keep it going or he would sell. After all this time i felt the job i believe i was tailored to do and started to work with him in a field i have no expertise. I guess i was really wasting my life because i would never end up turning my back to him. I realized fathers keep saying to their sons to stop dreaming but what they really want is to see their dreams living on their children’s hands.