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For the second part of this week’s trilogy i’ll post this shot from my window at the mountains. In a very cold winter the air is really humid and you can smell everything that happened during the night . I love this feeling of morning in the air.

 

I’m a city guy and i was already born this way. I would never live somewhere quiet before i reach seventy. I love the mess and the happenings and the cultural life of the big city. There’s a thing missing though. The elements. Air is not clean enough for you to enjoy it. São Paulo which is the city i live is famous for the thin rain so i have less than desired of heat or fire. Water that i can dive my body in is only found in pools and finally earth is amost impossible to be found outside the parks. The only solution is to spend a couple hours in the car and get to the nearest beach. It’s impressive the effect that the sand under my feet can achieve in seconds. It’s a lot of energy. After that i go into the ocean. That’s even more energy. There’s nothing more relaxing than staying in the sea for ten minutes or so but more than relaxing is also a big charge of energy. Theres’ a Brasilian ritual that i always miss when i’m spending my new year in my country. It’s common for me to visit my syster that lives in Chicago. In the new year’s eve in Brasil almost everyone dresses in white. That’s already a ritual that comes with the african culture we inherited. I really mean everybody. Another thing everybody does is to jump the seven waves. We go into the sea until it reaches at least our knees and actually jump when the wave passes us. We do that usually around the first hour of the first day of the year. If the party is too good we can still do it in the reast of the first day. They say ir brings good luck. I say it doesn’t even matter. It’s such a joy and a charge of energy that just from it is well worth it. Not just because there are hundreds of people in white on the sea at midnight but because the contact with the water and the earth and the wind are so magical. It’s like washing away the old things and getting clean for what is comeing. I really love to live in the city but if i don’t go to the sea at least twice a year i get sick. I need the power of the nature by my side.

Once a friend of mine told me: relationships are not solid like earth. Some people think that when the get married the job is done. It’s like a land they buy. It’s theirs. I’m not even saying it in a bad way. People tends to feel secure after they engage in a marriage that’s all. But the job never stops. My friend said to me relationships are like air in the atmosphere. You can go to sleep with your partner in a perfect night with a clear sky and a big gorgeous moon just to wake up next day in a giant storm! I can happen to anyone. You can go to sleep loving someone and when you wake up you have the feeling you don’t know anything about that strange person next to you. So what glues couples together? When do we emotionally decide in our hearts we really want someone to share our life with? If love is what bonds us why does it end? How does it? Is my friend right or maybe signs of the storm were happening for a long time and he just took it for granted? The important thing for that not to happen is to never stop taking care of the relation and i don’t mean taking care of your partner, the house affairs, money issues and family. I’m talking about the relation. You can find your self married to your sister or mother if you din’t do that. As passion don’t last forever love should be strong and nurtured. Desires should be fulfilled and individuality should be preserved. You can’t loose all your friends and personal life just because you are married. Otherwise if your relation finishes your life goes with it. Being respectful is the key for that to work. Equal rights in every aspect. I know things are complicated and you can loose your self in everyday life. But you can also loose your partner!