It’s impossible to be sure. Just impossible. We have no control over the possibilities of being betraid in life. Impossible. If you decide to control something you will learn it’s a full time job. Yesterday i had i problem with an employ i have for ten years now. I’m not sure yet and maybe i’ll never be sure but i think he have been stealing from the company for a long time. It’s something so impressive how something like that can shake your faith. Trust makes a lot of issues magically solved and when you trust someone it’s like having an extention of yourself that you can leave somewhere and you know it will function as you would at least in the matter of transparency. So you feel like you lost everything. What seamed to be solid now is totally made of air and you have to start building that house from the first brick. First you gotta be able to trust again and until then you’ll have to do everything yourself or you’ll be haunted by doubt. If you learn how to trust again you start a relation built upon trust. That takes a long time so it’s really hard to rebuilt trust. Because trust in an illusion. People can only see the world through their own minds so it’s impossible to predict what is enough for other and what is wrong for others and what is important for others. I know that guy really likes me but he was stealing anyway. Why? i’ll never know for sure.
Trust is not easy however the breaking of trust can make for some great fiction. I wonder if most people are trusting?
Me too!!! Thanks dear..
Giulas, sorry you have had to go through that experience. Breaking the bond of trust can be a deal breaker in any relationship. A few weeks ago, someone broke the trust that we shared. However, I found myself forgiving that person (a woman). In personal relationships, trust and its application is so important, yet can at times be ambiguious. It is like you said, we don’t really understand what someone else is capable of. I think we have to consider their mental state, BUT the perseverance of out safety is the most important thing we have to consider.
Good luck with dealing with the situation.
Walter
Thanks Walter. I guess everybody in a certain point had problems like these. It’s something really ambiguious…and we all make mistakes so…to be expected 🙂
I am glad that this is currant. I am looking forward to reading it. I have to get my son some cocoa puffs and milk first.
When I was with my fiance in the gorgeous spring of 1999 he took me to meet a friend of his who had a saguaro cactus out in front of his house that had birds nesting in it. I was so in love with Tom, my fiance and this was so beautiful to me. The man who owned the house that Tom took me too was odd I could tell right off of the bat because he collected beds. He had numerous beds in his apartment and perhaps no other furniture. I do not know and some of the beds were not even entirely put together. He was just a young guy and you know “how guys are”, so I did not think too much off it. We did not have to hang out with him. Tom never hung out with him in private. He just worked with him at a grocery store in or near Phoenix, AZ. Tom really respected the guy I could tell. And that was a good thing if Tom repsected you. Then not too far after I met him Tom found out that the guy got caught and he had been stealing money from the register at the store. He may have had a fairly high position. I do not recall. It seemed to me that Tom was a dash hurt. I could see that the broken bed man was on a downward spiral.
I would have been scared of this broken bed man… Weird isn’t it??
It’s so difficult to imagine someone doing this. I have known people who have done this and was so shocked when I found out. And one of them went on to get a very good job!
That’s so unfair isn’t it?? That’s my point. Maybe some have a different bar…
I tend to get into a lot of trouble over stuff like that.
I’m far too gullible – I seem to believe almost anything, and sometimes it comes back to bite me in the back-side.
I’m very sorry to hear about that… sounds like a very upsetting situation!
Thanks my friend!! I’m in a bad spot right now but i’m already changing it all… It will be alright very soon…
You are welcome…I think?
I’m sorry too, G. I’m way too trusting but I’ve noticed if someone gives me trust, blind trust where I don’t have to prove myself, I deeply appreciate it and am loyal to them for life. Although I’ve been deeply betrayed over the last several years, I try to still be giving with trust to others. I think it’s needed and can be healing. I wish you the best in overcoming the betrayal. It’s a hard pill to swallow.
I’m with you on that… I base my relations on trust. it’s the ground i walk on… If i stop trusting i can’t relate… as simple as that… thanks Simone.
Sorry for your troubles, Giulas (as the Irish say).
That can be devastating, to have your trust betrayed.
Mourn it as much as you need to. But then — onward.
I’m ok my friend. It’s just the concept that really confuses me… How to deal with something like this. How to keep going into this relation? It’s weird.
Have you booted the guilty man out of the company? I suppose it depends on what, he stole, and how much, if you are talking money, and huge amounts, its a police job. If he’s been pilfering goods on a regular basis, its much the same, everything costs the company money.
Dealing with a thief, is much like dealing with a liar, trust is difficult to regain. Once dealt with, officially, or otherwise, its better to part company with the person, and move on Giulas. Good luck.
It’s not actually a police job because it can’t be measured. The guy just had unlocked all the safe procedures we have to operate. He has been using them but i can’t specify for what or how much because he had control over the thing so he deleted almost all trace of evidence… Thanks
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Giulas, I am not defending your employee, but trust is a funny thing. While he might like you, he may love someone more and there may be a need attached to that love that means he feels he has no option. If he has worked for you for a long time, do you know if he has a sick child, for example, needing expensive medical treatment?
Sometimes circumstances drive people to do things against their character.
Alternatively, he is just a bad guy for stealing and you should definitely part company.
I totally agree with you on that but unfortunatelly that’s not the case. He just got a new car and as far as i know hes situation is really steady. I’m afraid he has been doing this for a long time and we didn’t notice…