They say marriage is out of fashion and that divorces are the big thing now a days. Of course a lot of things have changed and the reasons to get married are much more specific. People today don’t get together because society would preach or because family would obligate. People don’t get married to make fusions of fortunes. People just get married to be together as long as it lasts. Even the period is not that relevant to society anymore since even the church accepts divorce. So we are talking about these people that besides all this decided to be together. That makes marriages less and less common but it should make also marriages more and more durable because it’s only for those who truly wants it. Strangely enough they are getting shorter. I just wonder why. Something we see in common in couples is a plan. It’s always about a shared plan to have a family and have kids and also about having someone to rely on. Someone to look after. Someone to better our selves to. I’m not talking about romantic love here. I’m talking about complicity and old people’s love. So what happens? After a lot of water under the bridge people change and vows loose it’s meaning sometimes? I believe people like my parents that are married for almost fifty years are more rare these days and i’m sure if they got married today it would not last another fifty. They love each other but they are not married still for this reason. They are married because they don’t believe in divorce so they learned to be happy together even so they would do it differently if it was a choice. So is all this choice beneficial? I think so. So if it’s beneficial does it mean it’s better been divorced than married just for convenience? Sure! So if there’s nothing holding you back why wait? Why try hard? Why invest more time? Maybe because we need to reset our faith. Maybe because what once meant so much should still mean something right now. Maybe because it’s so easy for us to get dissatisfied. Maybe because relationships are as good as our will to make it work. Maybe because this need to have always more and more and happiness unmeasured forever and ever and ever again is a really demanding lie and if we have calmness enough we’ll realize the choices we made are the choices that made us so nobody suits us better than the ones we already elected to walk besides us.

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